阳历新年到来的前后，几乎每个知晓我2023new year resolution的人都在问今年的resolution是什么。一遍又一遍地解释说个人的新年跟着中国农历年来啊。
不是没想过切换到阳历年，毕竟会问的，要么是类似mentor的老师们，要么是关心你成长的人，不太想给他们“不积极主动”的印象。但作为一个打工人，无论何种形式，阳历年前后都是工作强度极大的时间段。而个人一年的梳理总结和展望，也需要沉着冷静的思考，耗费的大脑运动需要一段其他schedule相对不那么饱和的时间。所以，还是按照农历年的节奏来吧。
这一年感受最大的，莫过于paradox。以前说到悖论，仿佛它是一个难题，一个两难的鸿沟，现在的体会则是：它是篱笆杆杆，是攀缘绳，是让藤蔓向上生长壮大的支撑。
类似的还有不同意见的意义。质疑方案有效性的，可能就给你提供了另一个维度的思考和完善空间；给时间线打问号的，会给你提供stakeholder的角度；甚至，设定你当时觉得不可能完成的目标的，恰恰是给了你一个超越自己的机会。
正好本周的Curiosity Chronicle谈到了paradox，浅译一下。
A paradox is defined as a seemingly absurd or self-contradictory statement that, when investigated or explained, may prove to be true.
悖论的定义：一个看似荒谬或自相矛盾的表达，在经过调查或解释后却可以被证明是正确的。
1、The Growth Paradox 成长的悖论
Growth takes a much longer time coming than you think, but then happens much faster than you ever thought possible.
成长需要的时间比你想象的要长得多，但它发生的速度也比你想象的要快得多。Growth happens gradually, then suddenly.
成长是逐渐而突然地发生的。
The best things in life come from allowing compounding to work its magic.
生命中最好的事来自于复利发挥的魔力。
Slowly, then all at once. 慢慢地，然后出乎意料地。
2、The Persuasion Paradox 说服的悖论
Have you ever noticed that the most argumentative people rarely persuade anyone of anything?
最爱争论的人很少能说服任何人。
Persuasive people don’t argue—they observe, listen, and ask thoughtful questions.
有说服力的人不争论——他们观察、倾听，然后提出经过深思熟虑的问题。
Argue less, persuade more. 少争论，多说服。
Persuasion is an art that requires a paintbrush, not a sledgehammer.
说服是一个需要画笔而非棒槌的艺术。
3、The Productivity Paradox 生产力悖论
Work longer, get less done.
工作的时间越长，完成的工作越少。
Parkinson’s Law says that work expands to fill the time allotted for its completion. When you establish fixed hours to your work, you find unproductive ways to fill it.
帕金森定律说，工作在分配给它的完成时间内会扩展。当你为自己的工作设定了固定的时间时，你会找一些没有效率的方法来填充它。——这一点做项目schedule的时候需要警惕！避免帕金森的同时，也要避免没有足够的时间测试、调整、改进和全面review。
Work like a lion instead—sprint, rest, repeat.
像狮子一样工作——冲刺、休息、重复。
4、The Fear Paradox 恐惧的悖论
The thing you fear the most is often the thing you most need to do.
你最害怕的事情往往是你最需要做的。
Fears, when avoided, become limiters on our progress.
恐惧如果避免，就会成为我们进步的限制。
The most successful people in the world have all made a habit of running towards the thing that scares the hell out of them.
世界上最成功的人有一个习惯，那就是朝着让他们害怕的事情前进。
Make a habit of getting closer to your fears—treat them as magnets for your energy and you’ll find growth on the other side.
养成接近你的恐惧的习惯——把它们当作吸引你能量的磁铁，你会返现另一方面的成长。
5、The Intelligence Paradox 智力悖论
Intelligence can lead to stupidity.
聪明会导致愚蠢。
Highly intelligent people are more likely to fall victim to stupidity by convincing themselves they are smarter than the system. They create complexity vs. doing the boring, easy thing that works.
高智商的人更有可能通过说服自己比系统更聪明而成为愚蠢的受害者。他们创造复杂性，而不是做无聊、简单却有效的事情。
Never outsmart yourself.
永远不要比自己聪明！
6、The Advice Paradox忠告悖论
Taking more advice can leave you less well-prepared.
接受太多的建议会让你准备不充分。
Harsh Truth: Most advice sucks. It’s well-intentioned, but it’s dangerous to use someone else’s map of reality to navigate yours.
残酷的事实：大多数建议都很糟糕。这是善意的，但用别人的现实地图来导航你的现实地图是危险的。——即使出于好意，也要克制自己给出建议的欲望。
Winners develop filters and selectively implement advice—take the signal, skip the noise.
成功者过滤并有选择地执行建议——获取信号，略过噪声。
7、The Effort Paradox 努力的悖论
Effortless, elegant performances are simply the result of a large volume of effortful, gritty practice.
毫不费力的优雅表演只是大量努力而坚韧不拔的练习的结果。
You have to put in more effort to make something appear effortless.
你必须付出更多的努力才能让事情看起来毫不费力。
Small things become big things, simple is not simple.
小事变成大事，简单不简单。
8、The Wisdom Paradox 智慧悖论
“The more I learn, the more I realize how much I don’t know.” – Albert Einstein
“我学得越多，就越意识到我不知道的东西有多少。”——爱因斯坦
The more you learn, the more you are exposed to the immense unknown. This should be empowering, not frightening.
你学得越多，你就越能接触到无限的未知。这应该是一种力量，而不是恐惧。Embrace your own ignorance. Embrace lifelong learning.
拥抱自己的无知。拥抱终身学习。
9、The Opportunity Paradox 机会悖论
Take on less to accomplish more.
少接受，多完成。
Success doesn’t come from taking on everything that comes your way. It comes from focus—deep focus on the projects that really matter.
成功并不源自接受你遇到的一切。它来自于专注——专注于真正重要的项目。
Say yes to what matters, say no to everything else. Your time is an asset to be cherished.
对重要的说“是”，对其他的说“不”。你的时间是值得珍惜的财富。
10、The Boredom Paradox 无聊悖论
The most creative, captivating ideas stem directly from periods of intense boredom.
最具创意、最迷人的想法恰好来自极度无聊的时期。
You’re bored, your mind wanders, your thoughts mingle—creative insight strikes.
你感到无聊，你的思想游荡，你的想法混杂在一起——创造性的洞察力突然出现。
Boredom sparks creativity. Schedule more of it into your weeks.
无聊激发创造力。安排更多的时间给它。
11、The Social Media Paradox 社交媒体悖论
More connectedness, less connected.
更多的联系，更少的连接。
Social media has created more connectedness than ever before, but we feel less connected to those around us.
社交媒体创造了比以往任何时候都更多的联系，但我们感觉与周围的人的联系越来越少。
Schedule time to disconnect and you will feel more connection.
安排时间与外界断开联系，你会感觉更有联系。
12、The Failure Paradox 失败悖论
You have to fail more to succeed more.
你必须经历更多的失败才能获得更多的成功。
Our transformative moments of growth often stem directly from our toughest moments of failure.
我们成长的变革性时刻往往直接源于我们最艰难的失败时刻。
Don’t fear failure—learn to fail smart and fast. Never fail the same way twice.
不要害怕失败——学会聪明而迅速地失败。永远不要以同样的方式失败两次。
Always put yourself in the arena.
永远把自己放在竞技场上。
13、The Talking Paradox 说话的悖论
“We have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak.” – Epictetus
“我们有两只耳朵一张嘴，所以我们听的该是说的两倍。”——埃皮克提图
Talk less to say more. 说得少，表达得更多。
If you want your words and ideas to be heard, start by talking less and listening more. You’ll find more power in your words.
如果你想让别人听到你的话和想法，就从少说多听开始吧。你会在你的话语中发现更多的力量。
14、The Speed Paradox 速度悖论
You have to slow down to speed up.
你必须慢下来才能加速。
Slowing down allows you to restore your energy, notice things you previously missed, be more deliberate with your actions, and focus on the highest leverage opportunities.
慢下来可以让你恢复精力，注意到你以前错过的事情，对你的行动更加深思熟虑，并专注于最高杠杆的机会。
Move slow to move fast.
从慢到快。
15、The Looking Paradox 寻找悖论
Stop looking in order to find what you’re looking for.
不要为了找到你要找的东西而到处寻找。
Ever notice that when you’re looking for something, you rarely find it? Stop looking—what you’re looking for may find you.
有没有注意到，当你在寻找某样东西时，你很少能找到它?停止寻找——你在寻找的东西可能会找到你。
Applies equally to love, business, happiness, and life.
同样适用于爱情、事业、幸福和生活。
16、The Icarus Paradox 伊卡洛斯悖论
Icarus crafted wings and took off in flight. He became emboldened by his success and flew too close to the sun, which melted the wings and sent Icarus falling to his death.
伊卡洛斯制作了翅膀，飞了起来。他因自己的成功而变得胆大妄为，飞得离太阳太近，太阳融化了他的翅膀，伊卡洛斯坠落而亡。
An incumbent achieves success with one thing, but overconfidence blinds them to coming disruption.
在位者通过一件事获得成功，但过度自信使他们看不到即将到来的颠覆。
What makes you successful can sow the seeds of your downfall.
让你成功的东西可能会播下你失败的种子。
17、The Shrinking Paradox 收缩悖论
You may need to shrink before you can grow.
在成长之前，你可能需要先收缩。
Growth is never constant and linear. Subtraction may feel like a step back, but it’s a necessity for long-term growth.
增长从来都不是恒定和线性的。减法可能感觉像是退步，但这是长期增长的必要条件。
We all need to embrace the mantra of “less, but better.”
我们都需要信奉“更少，但更好”的信条。
One step back, two steps forward is a recipe for consistent, long-term success.
后退一步，前进两步是持续、长期成功的秘诀。
18、The Money Paradox 金钱悖论
You have to lose money to make money.
你必须赔钱才能赚钱。
Every successful investor and builder has stories of the invaluable lessons learned from a terrible loss in their career.
每一个成功的投资者和建设者都有从他们职业生涯中可怕的损失中学到宝贵教训的故事。
Sometimes you have to pay to learn. Always put skin in the game.
有时候你得花钱才能学习。永远把自己的利益放在游戏中。
19、The News Paradox 新闻悖论
The more news you consume, the less well-informed you become.
你看的新闻越多，你的见识就越少。
Nassim Taleb’s “noise bottleneck” concept suggests that more data leads to a higher ratio of noise-to-signal, so by consuming more, you end up knowing less about what’s actually going on.
纳西姆·塔勒布的“噪声瓶颈”理念表明，更多的数据会导致更高的噪信比，因此，消耗更多的数据，最终会对实际发生的事了解得更少。——新闻的角度，与数据分析的角度不同，尤其是结构化定量分析。
Want to know more about the world? Turn off the news and go spend time in it.
想要更多地了解这个世界?关掉新闻，花时间走进它。
20、The Death Paradox 死亡悖论
You have to know your death to truly live your life.
你必须了解死亡，才能真正地过你的生活。
Memento Mori is a Stoic reminder of the certainty and inescapability of death. It’s not intended to be morbid—but to clarify, illuminate, and inspire.
Memento Mori 以斯多葛的方式提醒人们死亡的确定性和不可避免性。它并不是病态的，而是为了澄清、阐释和启发。
By accepting our time as finite, we are able to appreciate its precious nature.
接受我们的时间是有限的这一点，让我们能够欣赏它的宝贵本质。